Today, I went to a great seminar called Train Your Brain For Success.
It was incredibly insightful and the speaker did a tremendous job of taking big (yet simple) concepts, and drilling them into people’s heads through the use of stories, demonstrations, and illustrations. (But this is all a post for another day…)
What happened after the seminar was over is the part that had the biggest impact on moi.
I waited around for everybody to work their way through the line so that I could talk with the speaker (Robb was his name, by the way). After a minute or two of conversation, I ended up on the topic of the “imposter syndrome”. For those of you that don’t know what that is, it’s when somebody feels unworthy of giving advice and help to others because all they’re doing is (in their mind) parroting information from elsewhere.
I mentioned to Robb that I was struggling with getting over the imposter syndrome. What he said next was exactly what I needed to hear, right when I needed to hear it:
“Can I get PG-13/R-rated with you for a second?”
“Get the F**K over it!”
There ya go. The most solid piece of advice that anybody can give! And I seriously mean that. Sometimes, you just need to be b*tch-slapped across the face to create some forward movement. Because he was absolutely right! He didn’t have to give me some huge motivational talk. He just had to simply say five little words to get the point across.
There are a lot of successful people out in the world that never step out of the woodwork to help others because they, too, are plagued with the imposter syndrome. If you are one of those people, and you’re not sharing your knowledge because you feel that it’s not valuable because you didn’t come up with it, then you need to realize that nothing is ever new. Lessons that you picked up from your favorite book, were lessons that the author picked up from someone else, and so on, and so on…
So, here’s a small piece of advice if you’re toiling away in your career because of imposter syndrome…
Just get the F**K over it! Sharing is ALWAYS valuable.
Until next time,